So I told him I don't want the contact anymore because it hurts even more to know he loves me and wants me but "can't" because of his fear. Not just this, he gets so disrespectful sometimes and he can go on without texting me for a whole day. I thought I'm just being dramatic but it's just how I feel, right? Like an option, like I'm only there when he's bored. I tried to talk to him multiple times but he always just changed the subject. Now I can't even stalk his reposts on tiktok and I know, I know it's better this way. Sometimes I don't care at all and sometimes it hits like a thunder.
How do I deal with it?
Last updated on:2026-05-05T17:58:03+05:30
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cutting contact was the only thing that stopped me from losing myself.
you were actually getting what you needed from him, or were you constantly shrinking yourself just to keep him around
that hot and cold thing where they say they love you but treat you like you’re optional. i used to sit there checking my phone all day, feeling stupid for wanting basic effort. that switch between not caring and then hurting HARD… yeah, i know it.
What you're feeling is completely valid. It's really hard to walk away from someone you love, even if you know it's for your own good. You're not exaggerating; if he made you feel like an option, that hurts enough. There will be days when you feel okay and others when it hits hard, and that's part of the process. But little by little, it will hurt less. I'm here for you; you don't have to go through this alone.
Thank you so much, seriously. It just got more and more confusing, he told me he loves me and won't date anymore, he said he can't "move on" without me and ofc it felt like I HAVE to stay with him, even when he was the one who broke up. It's just... I don't know how to explain it, my english is not good enough but he says things and does the absolute opposite
And I just want to understand why because I always want to understand
But maybe I don't have to understand