After realizing I was the toxic one in the relationship and it was all my fault, how do I come to terms with it. She is already dating someone else
Last updated on:2026-05-11T01:10:32+05:30
Am i the toxic one? coming to terms with my mistakes
After realizing I was the toxic one in the relationship and it was all my fault, how do I come to terms with it. She is already dating someone else
Last updated on:2026-05-11T01:10:32+05:30
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hopefully you are not pinning the blame on yourself,in such an instance the best thing to do is rebuild yourself and become a better version of the previous you.If at all you are still hopeful that your union with her (your ex) can be revived,reach out to her again.If at all she isn't interested anymore..... it's still okay,find someone else and reflect yourself better for them.
do you feel like you truly understand what made you toxic, or are you carrying all the blame because she already moved on and it hurts to see?
gah, this hurts to read because i know that spiral of blaming yourself for every single thing.
i didn’t know how to handle my own anger and insecurities, and watching her move on before i even fixed myself BROKE me. the guilt is awful, but the fact you can admit it means you’re at least facing it honestly now.
being aware of your behaviours is such a crucial step in the right direction. proud of you
Accepting that you made a mistake is a huge step. It doesn't mean you're a bad person forever, just that some things damaged the relationship. You can't change the past or control whether she moves forward, but you can learn from this and improve yourself, not just to win her back.
Sometimes, loving also means accepting the consequences and growing.
why do you think you're toxic?
Because I reread texts, trying to find vindication or closure for myself and realized that I was creating the hostility in our relationship. I had trust issues and I took them out on her
remind her what she loved about you in the first place