we were together for 3 years and broke up in december literally 3 days before our anniversary. a couple weeks later she said she regretted it but then out of nowhere she started ghosting me and always saying she was too busy.
a little over 4 months passed and earlier this month i finally decided to go no contact because i couldn’t keep doing it anymore. honestly it didn’t even seem to affect her. she could go days without replying and eventually i just gave up trying.
this breakup has completely wrecked me. i’ve been dealing with depression constant stress dizziness and vertigo from how overwhelmed i’ve been. she was genuinely the love of my life and losing her has messed me up more than anything else ever has.
now i saw her in a mutual friend’s story sitting with the same guy she started talking to around the time she began ghosting me. that part hit HARD. while i’ve been barely surviving these last few months she’s been moving on and building something new with someone else.
this board has honestly helped me through some really dark moments. if anyone has advice on how to move forward from this kind of pain i’d really appreciate it. being hurt this badly by someone who seems like they don’t care anymore is one of the worst feelings i’ve ever experienced.
Last updated on:2026-05-08T21:02:02+05:30
Comments (5)
It sucks, no getting around it. Here's the kicker: if you continue to struggle with it and avoid moving forward and living your life as best you can, you only validate thay she made the right decision. If your world crumbles without her in it, she would see it as her being superior to you in some respects. It's brutal, but on some level there's truth to it.
Anyone who shifts that fast has some sort of underlined mental issues, im dealing with a dude who did that to me and something just doesnt sit right about it. I'm not a psychologist but something about someone not being able to be alone to reflect on past attachments shows some sort of insecurity to me
That timeline where she was "busy" and then ghosting you right when she was getting close to this new guy... yeah that's rough as hell. The whole situation screams that she was probably emotionally checking out way before December and just didn't have the guts to be upfront about it
Hi similar situation here broke up with my GF come to find out she had a few sneaky links, the best advice that I can give and what has worked for me is dont assume anything the worst drug is delusion and if you dont know the entire story your mind will go to the craziest scenario's.
Don't worry about her, start loving yourself