we only dated for 3 months. we go to separate universities. we were about to have summer together buthe just said he couldn’t keep doing distance and sometimes we fought too much over text. i was his first ever girlfriend, we are both 19. i don’t know much about his reasoning for breakup but i do know he did REALLY like me, he wasn’t lying about feelings. i think maybe he got scared of the level of commitment. his last text was “i do care about you i just don’t feel like i can be with you at this point in my life”. i cant seem to let go of the idea that he might want to try again in the future. he’s coming home next week, i know i shouldn’t reach out but i want to.
Last updated on:2026-05-13T22:43:11+05:30
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accepting that someone can love you and still not choose the relationship. i stopped asking “will he come back?” and started asking myself if i could survive if he never did. that shift hurt like hell at first.
when you picture reaching out next week, do you think it’s because you truly believe it would change something, or because part of you just wants relief from missing him right now?
the “maybe later” hope kept me stuck for MONTHS after my first breakup. especially when nobody cheated or stopped caring, it’s so much harder because your brain keeps trying to leave the door cracked open. i kept replaying every sweet thing he said like it meant we were unfinished
Over the years I’ve learned that these shorter lived relationships feel harder to get over. it’s because of the unknown. it’s all of the “what ifs” that could have happened if you lasted longer. you’re missing an idea of a relationship. just know, if he gave up this quickly it wasn’t worth your time in the first place. you deserve someone who loves to be with you, someone who won’t give up on you the same way you won’t for them.