Yesterday, I had a talk with my ex, we did this because we have a shared friend group and I believed that it would be important to talk with her about how the summer is going to look. We spoke about that and had some unsaid feelings. This isn’t the same for every situation however, it brought me a lot of clarity. She said some very hurtful things, and confirmed some tendencies and habits that I have noticed since we have broke up. She told me, she is going to continue to avoid thinking out our breakup, and she is going to continue to not reach out. I was the one to reach out the other and I asked her if I hadn’t reached out, would she have ever. She flat out told me no, but at the same time she did agree to meet. I am not entirely sure why, because she also said she didn’t know what we would talk about. And to me that lead me to believe that she had said everything to me that she had needed to say. At the same time, more did come up as we talked, but she didn’t have a lot of answers to questions that I had, that being because she has been avoiding everything that has to do with me.
What are anyone’s thoughts on this?
Last updated on:2026-05-15T18:14:12+05:30
Comments (3)
i think you got your answer, even if it wasn’t the one you wanted. when my ex kept avoiding every hard conversation, i had to stop searching for deeper meaning in the mixed signals and just listen to what they were actually doing.
do you think part of her agreeing to meet was comfort and familiarity more than wanting to rebuild anything?
i’ve had a conversation like this before and honestly sometimes the clarity hurts more than the confusion. hearing someone admit they wouldn’t have reached out at all is SUCH a painful thing to sit with