so I'm still sorting my feelings but I do not feel as bad anymore nor the guilt or heavy feeling but I have a question. a friend of mine saw my ex at work and told me she is still wearing the necklace I gave her. I gave it to her when she was having bad anxiety and panic attacks and told her if i am not close by and she has an attack hold it and imagine it is me holding her hand. when I gave her the necklace I told her the story of the bird on it in the stories it was considered to be able to see everything and know everything. I also told her it is one of my prized possessions (because my younger brother has a similar one) but I wanted her to wear it to help clear her mind. when we broke up she told me she will give it back to me because it is precious. I told her that she matters more to me than the necklace. but the question is she wearing it because she might miss me or is the necklace just some jewelery? (it is silver a viking single raven pendant but there is nothing fancy about it)
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did she wear that necklace a lot even before the breakup, or is it something she suddenly started wearing more after everything ended?
she wore it everyday and was seen so many times holding the pendant tightly with eyes closed. and still wearing it now
reading into every little thing after a breakup because suddenly every object feels loaded with meaning. my ex kept wearing my hoodie for months after we split and honestly, yeah, part of it probably WAS comfort and attachment. people don’t always let go emotionally as fast as the relationship ends.
never do.it.if she want to come ,she will
its very simple.if anything is being gifted by ex, we gals dump it, not wearing when we still miss them as those thjngs remind of them.She may like the piece and wearing it.
just forget her and pendant.Focus on urself.
it was more like i lent it to her when she was having panic attacks and told her to hold it when she feels like she needs to hold my hand she said she would give it back but she is wearing it and like I said its just a silver necklace with no gems but a carving of a raven
@CozyCloud353 let me try to simply.u said u gave her necklace if she misses.now at present tge necklace is helping her in whatever way that she only knows.that necklace is sufficient to soothe her ,not u .so my advice is to move forward .if she want to come she will ...in this way u r only torturing urself by keeping hopes.
@LazerBoy855 and I agree but I had a weak moment I didn't reach out and I started to over think and searched for validation but you are also right because I am heading to be a better person I'm going to wait for her to decide her next move and to not dwell on it. everyone has weak moments and that one was mine. I apologize I wanted to seem validation and tried to hold on to something that. I know the necklace soothes her because it was given with care I don't even want the necklace I was clinging to the thought that maybe that might be a sign but again I'm torturing myself with hopes and everything so I stopped. I'm moving forward and facing my own fears (I'm a biker as well and she gave me the bell on my bike I was scared it might not work the same but I'm riding again because I can't let these things stop me)
just putting it out there - she might have an attachment to the actual necklace and not because you gave it to her
I also wanna ask if she might be regretting her decision to break up with me