Hey. So I've met a guy after getting over my ex and the breakup. We met after he had offered me a ride to work when I was stranded in the rain. In the car we didn't talk but when I got to work he gave me his number and said if I'm ever in another situation like that I can call him(I give him mine also) . I found out he was a taxi driver and wasn't even supposed to offer free rides. Anyways the next day I wasn't expecting a text but he asked if I'm working but it was my day off. I told him that and all he said was ok. Then I posted a status and he responded to it. I then responded with a thumbs up emoji. He then sent a second message and we started chatting from there. He would ask me about work etc. I told him one time I was getting ready for shift change and that I was getting cramps and he came and waited outside of my workplace. Yes these things are meaningful but the issue is that eventually we became friends and then he started telling me about his feelings for me and I shared the same and then we went on dates and later on we had intimacy. Now after the intimacy when I got home I started to think it was a bad idea and that I shouldn't have done it. I told him I was ready but after it happened now it's like the feelings I had aren't there anymore. He's a great guy but for whatever reason now I feel emotionally detached. I don't want to hurt him but I also don't want to lie to myself. What should I do?
Last updated on:2026-06-16T14:55:12+05:30
Comments (4)
i'd be honest with him sooner rather than later. i once stayed in something because i felt bad hurting a genuinely good person, and that ended up hurting him more when my heart still wasn't in it.
I don't know I also slept with this guy after days of no contact with my ex who had come on my birthday and got intimate with me but he has a gf so I blocked him last week. this new guy and I had been talking n after we watched the soccer match n we were drunk we slept together. I honestly felt bad because in that time I imagined my ex. and now I don't even know I feel like I have cheated on my ex but I haven't really but it feels like it because he was the one I was with here only. and now I don't know I feel regret this other guy still flirts with me tho but I don't want him to feel like a one night stand especially since I don't owe my ex anything really
do you feel emotionally detached from HIM, or do you feel scared because things suddenly became serious and vulnerable after the intimacy? those felt very different to me when i finally sat with them.
this one feels really complicated because it doesn't sound like he did something wrong, it sounds like something shifted inside you after the intimacy. i've been there. i spent weeks chasing someone, then the moment things became real, all the feelings seemed to vanish and i was left staring at the guilt of it.