I have such a hard time holding two truths at once. That I can understand my ex partners capacity and why he doesn’t have it. I can also understand that him not being able to protect me from his low effort is not good enough. He’s been guilting me so much into trying to compromise because he does the best that he can. When the best he can keeps making me compromise on the things I love I can’t do that for him. I have a hard time holding what I need and understanding where he comes from all at once. To let go knowing he hurt me because his capacity and effort level didn’t match mine..
Last updated on:2026-06-16T22:42:29+05:30
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do you feel more exhausted from carrying the relationship or more heartbroken by the thought of letting him go?
Two truths at once:)
someone can be doing their best and still not be able to give me what i need. i spent so long trying to make the gap smaller, but the gap was still there.
Thank you for commenting. I find that trying to make the gap smaller has only left me feeling like putting too much pressure on someone who just didn’t and couldn’t meet me no matter what they said. It’s really made me respect that we all have processes and timelines and if you love someone but their timeline is different both partners have to love each other enough to not try to cover that fact. What hurt me was all the lies.. if I had just noted how he moved instead of listening to his words we could’ve dodged a year of being mad at each other.
i stayed with someone whose best effort still left me feeling lonely, and i kept talking myself out of my own needs because i understood where he was coming from. eventually i realized understanding him didn't make the hurt disappear.
❤️🩹I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Very relatable.
my partner is married now dont know wt to do i am dealing with panik anxietyyyy