so for me I’m talking to someone new and it’s such a great connection healthy communication it’s great.
I am still confused with my ex as to how after four years together, ghosted me for two weeks after saying I love you, then told me to move on with my life in email because he has.
This happened in may, obviously with adhd my brain is like huh, but it’s not who he is. I don’t understand. I’ve had nothing since. no message or nothing. i stopped bothering to figure everything out and im
not even bothered about the situation at the time.
it just bugs me I don’t get It, why didn’t I get a reason or a discussion after waiting for him for that long and giving up my time and money for the relationship.
after all that investment why
Last updated on:2026-07-14T15:51:38+05:30
Comments (8)
sounds like he is not doing well and he's taking you with it. if that's the case, his bad behaviour is not your problem and you just need to take care of yourself. you did deserved an explanation, a conversation and an apology.
i had a relationship end with one cold message after years together, and my brain kept trying to find the missing page. i don't even miss them the same way anymore, i just hated that there was never a real conversation.
i get why it still bugs you. what helped me was accepting i was probably never getting an answer that made four years make sense, and i stopped waiting for one that didn't exist.
are you mostly grieving the way it ended and everything you gave to the relationship?
Sometimes we are as people or specifically women have to learn that we don’t need closure that a person showed us exactly how they feel about us so don’t wonder, ponder or even sit in confusion about him ghosting you focus on the new relationship you have it may turn out to be something great or someone to help you forget him. happy healing
That sounds really awful, especially after four years You deserve an explanation. Even as someone without ADHD, I would be wondering what was going on. Did he become distant before then?
no we were having problems but as a person it just wasn’t who I thought he was
hlo