I had a one-night stand with a guy about two months ago. It wasn’t my first time but it was the first time I’d been with someone who was completely my type. He was so much taller than me muscular kind and honestly looked like he’d walked straight out of a book. He was unreal.
It was one of the best nights I’ve ever had. He wanted to drive me home afterward and the first song he played was La bohème which I absolutely love. We ended up bonding over things we both liked during the drive. Talking to him felt so easy and natural. We had so much in common and I loved listening to him talk about the things he was passionate about.
I wanted to see him again so I texted him asking if we could meet up sometime. Four days later I asked again adding if you don’t want to it’s okay haha. It was a weird dating app mostly used for hookups so I honestly didn’t expect much from it.
But I’ve thought about him almost every day for the past two months.
I’ve met other guys since then but I haven’t felt that same connection with anyone. Some are boring some aren’t kind or generous and with others we just don’t have much in common. I keep comparing them to him without even meaning to.
The weirdest part is that I barely know him. I don’t even know his full name only his nickname. I know where he lives that he lives with his dad and a few other basic things. That’s about it.
Still I’ve cried almost every week thinking about him. My heart hurts knowing that whatever connection I felt was probably much stronger on my side.
About a week ago I texted him asking if we could see each other one last time. He said yes but then stopped responding. I’ve been left on delivered for six days now.
I feel so lame for being this attached to someone who clearly doesn’t want anything to do with me. My friends keep telling me to get over him but I honestly don’t know how. I’ve tried seeing other people but nothing feels right.
And the truth is I don’t even want to forget him. In my head he was everything I’d been looking for.
What am I supposed to do with these feelings?
Last updated on:2026-08-11T22:26:11+05:30
Comments (4)
The chase
It was a one night stand. You only know the things you like because that’s all you know. Remember the saying “its better not to meet your heroes” sometimes what we think we like and would be so great to have can end up being a nightmare. Also, you’re seeing other people, he isn’t that serious to you, you just haven’t found someone you like better. Keep seeing other people.
m sorry, this is hard to go thru for the first time. This is a very common thing when you have a one night stand. I would advise you to be really careful if you do this again because you got really attached and idealized this guy who you don’t even know. It’s not love. You just have to go thru the pain until you move on, and you will.
gurlll this might seem shadyyy n feelings are involved here that's valid
it's still early so it can be easy for you to move on
This is like a twinkling red light beeping alerting you for danger
imagine you still haven't known him well n you're already crying because he's not showing the love n care you're already showing to him
Whatever you feel for him might be valid but you gotta choose yourself this early before you get too attached
When it gets to that it'll be very difficult n heavy for you to save yourself