Why can't i sleep after the breakup?

that awful half-asleep state too. do you think you're checking because you miss him, or because you're scared he'll text and you'll miss it?

it sucks, special nights, and it will for a while. It's normal, so don't be mad at yourself, your body and mind are trying to readjust. you're in survival mode, so that's all you have to do right now. For me it helped a lot trying to create a new routine, always doing the same when I when to sleep and when I wake up, it takes time, but your brain will learn to connect this routine to sleep.

i know that checking feels automatic right now. i had to put my phone across the room because otherwise i'd barely sleep at all.

i kept waking up hoping my phone would light up, and every time it didn't, i'd feel that drop in my chest all over again

That’s how the first few days are. Sometimes you sleep for two hours, and sometimes you can stay awake for 36 hours and still not feel sleepy. Don’t be sad; you’re not alone. But I’m writing to you now, a month and a half after my breakup, and even though we still work at the same place, it does get better. He even messaged me recently, but I didn’t even see it because I had archived our chat. I’m sure you’ll have better days ahead. Trust the process and allow yourself to feel your pain.