I actually woke up myself this night because of this.
The only thing that will help you move on its acceptance. I learned that acceptance is the only healthy and an advantage for yourself. They didnt love you as much as you loved them? Okay..thats okay, we re different people who lived different. They changed so much that the relationship doesnt work anymore, even if you know them for years? Okay, it hurts..but I will accept that and let you be with someone who loves this version of you. They disrespected you? Acceptat that is what they think about you really in their mind.
They didnt want the relationship to work out as much as you and didnt put effort as much as you did, accept it; they will put that effort for someone they really want.
Accept the reality. Accept the things you see. Stop making excuses, stop seeing the good in them if they re not a good person and you know it. Question yourself..what is this person bringing me in my life that helps me in the future too? what is making me love this person for who they are?
Accept the hard things you dont want to accept, even if its hard. I miss the good times too, you guys will miss your moments too, but that doesnt mean it has to continue, because it cant anymore..even if we want to.
It was beautiful, it was a chapter that has to end so something more beautiful can come.
I hope this helped some of you as it helped me resist texting him. Remember the disrespect, remember you dont want a husband like that/ a wife like that. Remember the imaturity, the indiference, all that made a bad person of them.
bye bye đź©·
Last updated on:2026-08-17T21:07:26+05:30
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when you woke up and resisted texting him, what was the hardest part to accept about the relationship being over?
That all the past and forgivness we gave each other was gone. I still have moments when this is why I cant accept it all, but I will in the future.
i kept a note on my phone with the things that made me feel small and reread it whenever i started romanticizing them
Omg, I have that too, many reasons why to not go back, that note was made in the relationship, imagine that.
I think I’m finally starting to except the fact that it’s over and we were not meant to be each others forever
So good! Thats a good step for youđź’ž
i've been there, waking up with that same urge to text because part of me was still arguing with reality. acceptance hurt like hell at first, but pretending they were still the person i needed hurt me even more.
Im in that phase, hopefully the acceptance clears the way.
How to accept the reality when I still live in hopes? I just can’t let him go yet… I know it takes time, I know healing is long process but I don’t see future without him yet, I think I am deeply attached to this person, it’s hard to accept the reality when almost decade was spent with one person
I know, and you can still love them and have hope you get back together, in the same time you accept the other way around. ❤️ I hope you will see how a person wouldnt trade those many memories for something selfish and your love for them.
thank you, I really appreciate the advice
you re welcome
very wise
thank youđź©·
Amen! Thank you for this sage wisdom. On the other hand seems like love is a rare gem in this world these days. Or maybe all of us are still healing so we aren't ready to see it yet until we choose us.
it is a rare gem, and people just change in bad, thinking they will find that love in every corner, so wrong.