Guys I reached 7 days of no contact for the first time š„° after endless breakups In the past we always stayed friends and talked but after walking away this time I finally feel at peace I guess it feels easier because I got so used to his words hurting me and his constant rejection
āAfter telling me he only loved me like a family member for 8 years and that he tried but could not truly love me he admitted he was forced to go out with me just to spend time with me He told me straight out that he never loved me the way I wanted as the love of his life š and that it never happened but I just acted nice I told him good night and he left me on read for 2 days
āThen he sent a cat reel š expecting my usual reply because before I used to react to his random reels after a fight just to act friendly But this time I decided I am completely done with low effort and disrespect so I will not answer him ever again š„°
Last updated on:2026-08-18T02:44:54+05:30
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breaking no contact over the dumbest little reels because i was so used to being available whenever my ex reached out. honestly, ignoring that cat reel is probably the strongest thing you could've done for yourself.
thank u so much for ur words it is so true i realized that even if i replied or went back i would just be lying to my self because i will never truly forget what he did to me for the first time in years iām actually enjoying my time without him at least now i feel like my life is peaceful and certain without all that constant anxiety
that's a win worth celebrating.....I'm giving you your flowers and keep moving on
after everything he said, what made you finally decide that this was the breakup where you weren't going back?
i spent 8 years giving excuses for his hot and cold behavior blaming his stress depression or career i held on so tightly because i grew up without siblings or a good father figure so i wanted him to be my family i was always the one bringing us back together until he told me straight out that when a man loves a woman he fights for her no matter what and that he only ever loved me like a family member that honest truth snapped me out of it seeing his words match his low effort made me lose every single feeling i had left this final breakup i didn't cry at all because my tears ran out over those 8 years i just felt calm knowing my self respect is worth more than waiting on someone who never chose me
How do you stay so strong? I can't stop crying and thinking about him, about the future plans that have fallen apart, about the fact that I won't see him again, that I won't feel his love anymore.. Itās hard..
i got used to it over time and i realized the truth he doesnāt want me he didnāt love me and he didnāt choose me if a man loves a woman he makes a war to be with her since he didnāt care and told me i was never the love of his life thatās fine i have my dignity and self respect he isnāt the only person in the world and he definitely isnāt the kindest or the handsomest i deserve someone who is completely in love with me and puts in real effort to keep me iām actually thankful for him because he raised my standards and taught me to never accept bad treatment or stay where iām not loved
I know and it takes time you just have to allow yourself to feel all those emotions and then start accepting the reality of the situation.....don't be stuck in the future you hoped you'd have with him ...it was nice while I lasted bt this is the new reality and you cannot deluded the new reality so don't be harsh on urself If anything be kind to urself and make it abt you....if you can get out there and be with friends even if you don feel like it do it for you
@ChompTu819 I think the best thing women can do is glow up after this hard period and pure all the love she had to herself, right now seems it impossible but with little steps every day we will build ourselves much better
proud hope i can get there but its hard with a newborn involved
i'm so sorry for u but ur newborn is a gift u are not alone at least u have ur amazing son or daughter that makes u experience what means to be a mommy and she or he will bring u a lot of joy that's a win congratulations for ur beautiful baby ā¤ļøā¤ļø
So proud of you girl you can do it, no pain no gain šŖ
hearing someone you loved say they never loved you the way you needed can wreck your whole sense of reality, so 7 days of choosing yourself after 8 years is HUGE.
thank u for the validation yes at that moment i felt i lost all my feelings i even didn't cry at all i was calm and without any feelings cause i thought he loved he acted like he loved me then he told u never was the love of my life but i love u as a family member like as a sister