Why didn't he fight for us?

've learned the hard way that i can't fight for two people. i would've given anything to hear my ex say he was willing to fight too, but eventually i had to stop measuring my worth by how hard he chose to stay.

you say you did so much for him, do you think you're hurting more because you lost him, or because you never felt like he valued everything you gave?

Same, I always chose him and relationship, and he always chose what’s best for him.. After he decided to leave, I tried so many times to talk to him, but he didn’t want even to listen to me, all he saw was his truth, so I was just left with a fact that he don’t want me anymore.. after 9 years it was just so simple to him to leave me

i stayed and fought for a relationship that was falling apart too, and watching someone you would've fought for with your whole heart just walk away hurts like hell.

Same. I even supported him financially when he wasn't working. In the end I got told, I didn't do anything for him but ruin his life. It's so hard to deal with.

That’s one of the worst feelings—realizing you were the only one pouring energy into the relationship. It's completely valid that it broke you, but please don't let it make you feel like you weren't enough.