we’ve been together for 2 years and 3 months and honestly our relationship has always been pretty hectic.
when we first got together we both came from abusive families and ended up running away together to another city. We lived there for a week or two before the police found us and separated us because i had been reported missing. That whole situation is a story on its own.
More recently i found out that my boyfriend has been lying to me about watching porn throughout our entire relationship. I have bipolar disorder and this is the first relationship where i’ve really tried to work on my jealousy and become more accepting instead of constantly worrying about what my partner is doing.
I’ve told him many times that i don’t have a problem with him watching porn. I just wanted him to be honest with me. I even told him i’d rather know the truth so we could talk about it and figure out what works for both of us. But he always insisted that he didn’t watch it.
Then i started seeing evidence on his account because his algorithm was showing a lot of sexual content. When i brought it up he insisted it wasn’t him and told me i was overthinking things.
This isn’t the first time he’s lied to me either. He has lied about women he works with even though nothing happened with them and he has also lied about his past relationships. I’ve forgiven him and given him chance after chance but i’ve been doing that for around a year and a half now and somehow the lying has only gotten worse.
Another thing that really hurts is the way he treats me because of a version of me he has created in his head. He admits that this version of me isn’t who i actually am but he still treats me like i am that person. He says i haven’t really done anything to create this image because i’m always there for him loving and emotionally and sexually available but he says he has still built up resentment toward this version of me.
It’s started taking a serious toll on both my physical and mental health. Almost every day for the past month he tells me he’s sorry for how he’s treated me and promises he’s going to change and give me the world. Then he goes right back to doing the same things later that very same day.
I feel completely stuck. I’ve given so many chances and i genuinely don’t know what i’m supposed to do anymore. I’d really appreciate some advice on what steps i should take because i’m starting to feel like i can’t keep living like this.
Last updated on:2026-08-27T12:23:12+05:30
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i was with a guy twice, a year in high-school and a year in college. Together making almost 3 years, they don't change sadly. They say they will but the won't. Asking for honesty isn't asking for much and if a person is unable to do that much then they can't do the other things you ask.