we have a daughter together and she is making 5years on 1st September .. she stays with his mother and I literally don’t get along so well with all of them .. but I keep showing up to visit my daughter and spend sometime with her I chose to go no contact with him so as to heal my traumas and probably stop hurting because every conversation with him would leave me broken .. it’s day 26 am literally wondering if I should reach out and ask him if there any plans for our daughters birthday or I should just let it pass and I just go visit my daughter like I do ….
Last updated on:2026-08-30T06:08:12+05:30
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if conversations with him always leave you broken then maybe just show up for your visit like you already do and make the day about her without looping him back in. protecting your healing while still being there for her is allowed.
how does it usually go when you visit, does his mom make space for you and your daughter or does it feel tense the whole time?
day 26 and the birthday is right there, i get how that pulls at you
trust me it’s hard I don’t know how to go about it
Visit your daughter and make her feel special. No need to open old wounds around her birthday.
thanks dear