Hi everyone! So I'm a bit confused on what I should do. So basically I'm not the type to take pics unless I look cute so eventually when I do take pics they're saved in my phone. My now partner in the early times of us dating would ask me for pics. I told him I didn't like sending pics unless I'm comfortable. He would say things like "I'm not trying to bring her up but my ex sent pics like randomly because she knew I loved pics and she sent like 200 pics of herself" and we did argue about it cause why were you bringing up your ex to prove a point. Eventually after a week I started sending him pics. Now it's my turn to get pics and I asked him and he's saying that he's not sending. I recalled the moment he said a boyfriend should get pics of his girlfriend and he said yes so now I asked him for pics and he doesn't want to send. I also added that I'm use to receiving pics or videos from guys in the past and he's saying he doesn't care because he's still not sending pics. He got about 70 pics of me so far and I have 0 of him.
Last updated on:2026-08-31T17:43:11+05:30
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this would bug me too, especially after he used his ex’s behavior to pressure you before. do you feel like he actually doesn’t like sending pics, or does it feel like he expects you to meet his needs while yours get brushed aside?
i think what worked for me was stopping the scorekeeping and looking at the bigger pattern. if he simply hates taking pics, okay, but if he expects you to do things for him that he refuses to do for you, i'd pay attention to that.
i giving my ex things he asked for because i wanted him to feel wanted, then realizing he didn’t naturally give that same effort back. that imbalance starts to sting.