I joined my ex-gf's college this September, I got a place before we broke up and chose to go for Hospitality & Catering, but I also chose it because I wanted us to have more time together and hopefully improve our relationship because through the entire relationship we only saw eachother 14 times, bc we only saw eachother about once or twice a month, we broke up nearly 3 months ago and now I'm terrified of seeing her at college.
I started this week for induction, and she's starting next week, her course building is directly in front of mine so I'm scared I'll see her around campus. However she's never given me a reason to be scared of her during the relationship but I've noticed such a shift in her since we broke up, especially after she moved on to an online guy (he lives in Canada or America idk which one..) only 1-2 months later.
I'm also scared she'll message her online friends or her new bf about me if she sees me, most of her online friends used to be my friends too and nearly all of them despise me now, having no friends at college makes it worse because I have nobody to distract me or talk to.
I just wish she could be civil with me like I am with her, I don't tend to talk badly about her and I know I wouldn't message my online friends if I saw her at college but I know that she would, I'm just not sure how to get over this fear of seeing her.
Last updated on:2026-09-06T20:28:12+05:30
Comments (5)
i'd honestly stop trying to predict what she'll say or who she'll tell. i can't control my ex's behavior either, but keeping my own side clean helped me feel a lot less powerless.
i know how scary it felt knowing i might randomly run into my ex, especially when we went from being close to basically strangers. i spent so much time planning what i'd do if i saw her, and every scenario felt awful.
i feel for you, especially starting college without friends around you yet. if you saw her tomorrow, what are you most afraid would actually happen?
The only thing im afraid of is she'll message her online bf and online friends saying that she saw me and they could potentially message me horrible things im not able to block them bc they've blocked me first I dont even know her bf I only know his name and that's he's 23 dating a fresh 18 yr old (my ex) and he hates me for no reason bc I didn't even hurt her.. apparently i cheated though bc my ex-bsf fell out with me and told my ex-gf lies so thats why he hates me probably, im just scared ill get threats by her friends and bf i got threats 1 time by my ex-bsf's gf (23 as well while im 17) simply just for falling out with her and im scared ill have that same experience again but with my ex-gf's bf
imagine there's a pile of the most gross thing , it'll be hard for first three days , but you'll get used to it