Instead of talking to her directly like I should have I told her friends about the problems we were having. I was scared she might have lost feelings for me and just didn’t want to say it because she knew it would hurt me. They promised they wouldn’t tell her but they did. After that she lost all the trust she had in me.We were together for eight months. This was our only real fight. She told me she needs time to be alone and free and that she doesn’t want a partner who shares things she tells him with people outside the relationship.I can’t put into words how much I regret it. I keep wishing I had just waited and spoken to her in person. I saw a psychologist but I’m not sure it helped much. I’m genuinely trying to change and I want her to see that I’m not the same person I was a month ago.I told her I’d like to try again and that I’m willing to do things differently no matter how long it takes. She’s not ready for that right now. I said I would respect her decision and stop trying to change her mind. She mentioned that she’d like us to hang out as friends sometime when she’s back in town and I’d really like that.She is the love of my life. I traveled abroad several times just to see her and was there for her during some of her hardest moments. Right now I can’t think about anything except somehow showing her that I’ve grown.I’d really appreciate any advice on how to move forward from here — what I should do and what I should avoid if I still want a chance to get her back. Please don’t just tell me to move on. I’m not ready for that.
Last updated on:2026-09-11T01:08:12+05:30
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i’d really like to understand this part better, do you think you want to be friends because you can genuinely handle seeing her without trying to rebuild the relationship, or because you’re hoping being close will eventually bring her back?
honestly, giving her the space she asked for is probably the strongest thing you can do right now.
making one scared decision because you’re terrified of losing someone, then replaying it a thousand times wishing you had handled it differently. eight months can hold a LOT of love, and i can hear how badly you want her to see that this mistake isn’t the whole of who you are.