He was on Audhd. I knew nothing about that, recently moved countries and mental health is not something we are aware of there. I was reading about it and trying my best to understand him. But it kept me really confused and lonely most days and I feel like I pushed him to breakup with him. He was very consistent respectfully and treated me like a flower he always showed his interest only through his actions planning dates only on Saturdays but rest of the days he was not so connected he didnot want everyday phonecalls didnot like expressing feeling or complementing each other I tot it’s coz of his audhd and tried adjusting to his ways .
but it made feel like I was being used as a weekend company not a real girl friend
I should have been gentle like he was with me but never really gave a straight answer whenever I asked how he feels about me. the only answer I get was it easy to spend time with you, I like our little quirks I like that you like the same things I like. Never I really love you or you are a part of my life now I want this to grow into something more constant. Inlost it one day and blew up , told him how lonely I was everyday and how he always circled around instead of reassuring me. He said he felt like being trapped and it’s lose lose for him. he has been trying and that I always say that he doesn’t and that really hurts. He said he thinks we are incompatible as we have been fighting every week and that he doesn’t see this relationship going forward and he wants to breakup. I was so hurt I wanted to repair and he chose to breakup. I asked him if he can reconsider and work on things instead he said he doesn’t feel like anything will be different even if we try again. The breakup happened on phone.
We went quiet for a week and then I reached out asking for. closure he talked very sweetly gave closure again in text. I asked him if he wants to meet briefly he said we can meet when things calm down and didnot give me a time frame just said that we can feel that out. Then a month of silence and I accidentally sent him an instagram reels where the girl is crying uncontrollably over her breakup I deleted and said it’s wrong window he didn’t reply then I asked him if he already saw the video I sent . he didnot reply and just blocked. I was so hurt I called him and sent voice mails that I don’t like being blocked and that I never followed or perused him when he said breakup after 8 months on phone now blocking me for nothing it’s humiliating he didn’t respond I got mad and blew up.Got all the things off my chest what all doubts I had on me that he was just having fun with me and was always on dating apps one foot out and he never had any long term intentions and just lied to me coz I was ina vulnerable situation. I also stocked with him though had ED he said he will see a doctor but he didnot even after 4 months. I called out on everything it’s been 3 days I want to just forget him and move on like he did.
Last updated on:2026-10-05T11:34:04+05:30
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this made my stomach drop because i know that exact sick feeling in your chest. after my last relationship ended, i blew up his phone calling out every lie and every way he made me feel small, and the silence afterwards felt so humiliating. but you weren't crazy for wanting real reassurance, and taking on all the fault when someone gives you bare minimum weekend energy is just so exhausting.
All through the time I was with him , I was so confused if I was way too demanding from someone who had audhd or if I was kept being fooled giving bare minimum. I tried my best until I couldn’t. And he didnot really liked talking abt his autism( was new to me) he only mentioned twice in 8 months and that was with great difficulty he worded that out. I shared with him my struggles my weakness physical and emotional hoping he will open up too so that I can understand him better but it seemed like he didn’t like sharing his inside world with me rather chose to leave than being vulnerable, Wondering how easy it is to decide it’s better to cut this person off my life than explaining and resolving things. I sm humsn with emotions not a toy or furniture to throw out when felt like it was taking too much space.how cruel but still he gets to live a cool structured live going to community rvrnts festivaks and working on his nee home he bought just a few months after we met. he said wanted longtetm relation and then maybe get married. he aaid things i wsnted to her . he said he thought things were getting better after we had a place of our own he included me in his life, made me feel like he was imagining life with me but only to discard me in a blink of an eye and never rvrn looking back if i am alive
what got me through those awful first days after getting blocked was writing everything i wanted to scream at him in my notes app instead of reaching out. getting it out of your head onto a screen keeps you from giving him any more of your energy while you're still in shock.
no I was all alone
Actually a fren called me up 15 min later ( she was someone who would try support but enjoy secretly seeing me fail or in pain)
I couldn’t ignore her call coz she’s the only one who can help me a bit with other things in my life. so I had to change my tone and pretend to be fine. I am so used to pain but it still comes as waves hurting me like hell
did you have anyone close by to talk to when you were sending those voicemails, or were you stuck sitting alone with all that panic?