I was in a long-distance relationship; at the beginning, he was super nice and would stop everything he was doing to talk, call, play games, etc.
Over time we became closer and he started telling me more about his life, and whenever we needed each other, we were always there for one another.
From the sixth month onwards, I noticed he started to withdraw a little. I confronted him, asking if everything was alright and if he needed some time for himself, but he said that these things happen and with time, things would get better.
When we met, he was in the process of doing an exchange program (I met him a little before, while he was still living at home), I went through the entire exchange program with him; he had some complications, and I was the only person he confided in about it.
When he finally returned to his country, that's when things started to get stranger. He absolutely refused to introduce me to his parents; every day he was busier and busier, and we spoke less and less, He stopped calling me, playing games, watching movies with me; he only had superficial conversations for a maximum of 15 minutes a day.
He was always a hard-working boy and I always respected that. His father owns the company he works for, so I knew he would be busier, I just didn't know he would disappear completely.
The longer time passed, the worse our situation became; we even asked for some time off, but when we returned, there were still no improvements.
As a final act, after months and months of asking him to change, I told him that if he didn't introduce me to his parents, I would be certain that he didn't want anything serious with me.
He was very reluctant and in the end didn't introduce me.
So I asked him if he wanted to break up because it seemed like only I cared about our relationship. In our last conversation, he revealed to me that his father had told him that It wasn't the right time for him to date and he should focus on work.
Honestly, I was very, very disappointed because he had never said that to me before and left me waiting for things to get better.
Financially, he is well-off, and his father has many employees and two other children besides him. His job is to produce sweets and cakes for their bakery.
In the end, he told me that he still loved me very much, so I realized that he was distancing himself because his family asked him to, not because he didn't want me anymore.
I honestly don't know what to do.
Last updated on:2026-10-07T21:50:24+05:30
Comments (11)
i kept waiting for my ex to choose me when life got complicated, and eventually i had to stop waiting for a decision they weren’t making. hearing that his family influenced him probably explains some of his distance, but you still deserved to know what was happening instead of being left hoping things would magically get better
i’ve been in that spot where someone still says they love you, but their actions slowly make you feel like you’re being left behind. that kind of ending is brutal because there’s no clean reason to hate them, just a lot of unanswered hurt.
if he came back tomorrow and said he wanted to be with you despite his family, would you still trust that he could actually show up for the relationship?
I don't think so because he's already made me a thousand and one promises and never managed to keep any of them. I don't know if he would do it now
it happens, this is is how universe teaches us that we can't earn love through more efforts.
Unfortunately, when the other person doesn't want to, there's nothing that can be done.
@ClaraSophie Yes, your energy and love deserve the person who genuinely care for you and you will get that person when you stop looking for him. hang in there and Sending lots of love and hugs.
there’s nothing you can do when somekens mind is already made up about you, when someone really loves you they will move mountains for you they will do anything for you. all you can do now is focus on personal growth
Thank you very much. In the end, I think he just needed someone to pass the time with.
same is happening with me
I hope things will be alright for us.