He broke up with me yesterday over text. 14 months of dating ended over text but he couldn't get the point across so I had to do it myself. Why couldn't he have just tried harder? He blamed the breakup on him being a shit boyfriend, but if he knew what was wrong why couldn't he have fixed it? Was I not good enough to try for anymore?
Last updated on:2026-10-12T22:30:12+05:30
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that voice asking if i wasn't good enough was realizing that his refusal to try is a reflection of his own emptiness, not my worth. when someone chooses the easiest way out instead of fighting for you, they are doing you a massive favor by showing you exactly who they are.
he completely disappear after sending that text, or has he tried to check in since then
my ex did the exact same thing after two years and ended it with a cowardly text while i sat there wondering why fourteen months of my life wasn't worth an actual conversation face to face. it hurts so damn much when they admit they messed up but refuse to do the actual work to fix it, leaving you to carry the weight of their cowardice
stay strong
I know what ur going thru im going thru the same thing right now. It hurts but they say it will get better. idk when and I don’t see how yet, but I have faith. Stay strong, this will all be in the past one day.
he didn’t try harder because either he couldn’t (didn’t have the tools) or he didn’t want to. he did take the cowards way out and that could be for a number of reasons. either way if he can’t treat you with value, then you should go. I stayed with a man that didn’t have the tools but loved me in his heart. I paid dearly for what he lacked. so in situations like this, it hurts like hell, but it’s a chance at something that fits better to you and how loving you are.
I don’t know anything about you or your relationship but I know that in my case, they find it easier to just put the blame on themselves so you don’t question and because it’s ‘easier’. A lot of people don’t want to face themselves
its easy to thinj you werent good enough, sometimes people just stop trying. it’s no one’s fault and it sucks shit. Getting broken up by text is the worst, it happened to me after not seeing him for 2 weeks. so for that I’m sorry. you will get through this and you will find peace, it’s a healing journey that goes at its own pace