for the first week and a half of my breakup, me and my ex tried to stay bestfriends. I was still adjusting to him breaking up with me so when he started calling me Bestie š©µall of the time. it started getting to me. how could I go from babe, my love, gorgeous, into bestie within a day. I know he tried and Iām grateful for that. it was just shocking. I would ask him how heās doing amf he would say he misses me, he said he was in the āreboundā stage with no rebound and he still loves me. I was selfish and had no one to talk to so Iād say I felt like I should hate him but I donāt.
one day I said I feel I should hate him and he said he needs a break from friends. I accepted fhat and after a day we talked again. we said weād try and be friends again. then I got ignored for another day. it hurt me badly. but he said he was busy and I accepted thay again.
the problem was that he said hed been struggling. I asked with whay anf he said gow āeveryone and everything is telling me that this is a horrible idea. I shouldnt be friends with you but itās so hardā I was so over it thay I said he needs to decide for himself. I said ofc I want you to stay but if you canāt then uou cant. he didnāt like that amf said that he didnāt want my opinion, he was just trying to be transparent. he basically said I was being heartless
I said that I didnāt mean to sound like that. at thay point I was pissed off so I said that every time something happens iys my fault and that he needs to make the choice for himself. he decided to cut it off. he said that he CABT keep coning back to our shattered relationship. I didnāt fight it and said Thats fune. I couldnāt bring myself to say stuff so when he started going on about how amazing I am. I just said thankyou and goodbye.
I ended up messaging him abt half an hour later saying that I hope he finds someone good for him etc, he says the same for me. we said not to be strangers and Thats how it ended.
I hated it but it is how it is. Iām not proud of my actions but thereās nothing I can do about it now.
Last updated on:2026-10-14T16:24:19+05:30
Comments (4)
going from ābabe, my love, gorgeousā to ābestieā overnight would mess with my head too š i tried being friends with my ex straight after our breakup and every little change felt like losing them all over again.
i think you were both hurting and neither of you knew how to be around each other anymore. i kept trying to make friendship work with my ex because i couldn't handle losing them completely, but the constant back and forth hurt way more than the distance did.
he said he still loved you and was struggling with the idea of being friends, did part of you keep hoping you'd find your way back to being together
Iām not sure. bacj then we made it clear we werenāt gonna get back together. now I donāt want to be with him again but I want to see him, talk to him Yk