my ex and I broke up in May. we had off and on contact through July. I reached out to him by email in august because i was blocked on everything and he never responded. i emailed again in october and this time he responded and we called the last two days and it was awful. i’m pretty sure im blocked again but im too scared to check. since I started talking to him, I haven’t eaten, I didn’t go to work (but i did go to the doctor because i think i got a mild concussion from soccer). I guess i missed him so much and thought talking to him would help and things would be different but it was just right back to him making me feel like a terrible person. he was gaslighting me and being very hurtful. I feel so so defeated. and now it’s like i’m going to go through the pain of restarting. support would be appreciated
Last updated on:2026-10-16T22:22:12+05:30
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reaching back out to my ex because i missed him so much, hoping maybe this time he’d be gentle with me, and ending up feeling worse than before. it hurts when the person you want comfort from is the same person hurting you
something that helped me was reminding myself that missing someone doesn’t mean i need to let them back into my life.
i can feel how defeated you are, especially after hoping those calls would go differently. when he started making you feel like a terrible person again, did it feel like the same old pattern you remember from the relationship?
I’m so sorry, that’s really hurtful
do something kind for yourself today 💛
I totally get this. my ex blocked me on social media. He only wants to talk to me on his terms and then will act really nice towards me. But as soon as I try to have a serious conversation, he turns cold and hurtful. it’s just not worth the pain and emotional push and pull anymore. We all deserve better and someone who will care about us without sacrificing who we are.
he is showing you his true intentions with you. it's time to let him go and focus on you with a life without him. everytime you break no contact the pain does start all over again bc you are creating false hope that he wants to communicate. if he wanted to he would. you deserve someone down the road when you are healed that is there for you. not blocking you. let it go. let yourself heal or you will stay in this loop. write down things that were not good about the relationship and especially him blocking you should be at the top of your list. It is not easy to accept a breakup but you owe it to yourself. if he is gaslighting you he doesn't sound like someone you should be chasing. stop contacting him. it's ok to miss him but it's time to find yourself again without him. make new memories without him. find your new you. you can do it❤️❤️❤️
more power to you girl. just give all those attention and love to yourself you will be fine soon ❤️