On the 30th September we have a big argument. He told me he need space but he can't told me for how long he need space but when he is ready he will come back but he is unhappy with me he told me because he dont want my to argue with the things he does. How can someone told this to you that he need space but not for how long. Can someone gives me advice maybe.
Last updated on:2026-10-19T11:18:12+05:30
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i can imagine how painful it is to hear “i need space” without knowing when you'll hear from him again. i've been stuck waiting for someone to decide when they were ready
i'd give him some space, but i'd also remember that YOUR feelings matter here too. i learned the hard way that i can't put my whole life on hold while someone figures out what they want.
has he told you what he actually wants to change between you two, or has he just left you waiting without a clear answer?
he say he dont like the way I'm arguing with him about the things he do....
Oh nah. I would absolutely leave leave. This is an avoidant tendency. He is going to come back in a month or so, say he reflected and will be better. But itll be the same patterns again. I learned that lesson the hard way
I would tell him, that if needs space, I would need a time to think as well what I’m doing in a relationship where person is not sure about me, cause grownups talk about problems and find a way out, not keeping each other guessing their worth. I would take a break for myself away from him, not letting him to my life, and when he tries to come back (they always come back) I would make him work really hard to get me back…
but it’s a game really, only worth time when you are sure he is a right person for you