Any opinions?
We are in no contaxt for 17 days. I havent messaged him or anything, even when we broke up I wasnt begging to him to stay. I only said him what I want in my life, and he should think again about if he sure he wants to break up, it would be a bad idea to give up our realtionship beacuse of my family.
At the beggining of the co versation he said he dont want to be a relationship etc... but after some minutes he said we could work out again in 1-2 weeks or months.
We always had problems with my family, but I cant do anything big about them, for 3 months. After it it would be better. I know my family didnt liked him and it hurted him, so I get it why was it much for him.
We have had a broke up in may. He said the same things as now and didnt even deleted my nickname.
He said in august when we got together it was beacuse he saw a chance for us getting back together again.
Now he has my nickname still after 17 days. We havent talked since.
I dont want to loose him but i dont want to beg either.
What should I do?
Do I have a chance to get back with him?
Hes an avoidant. Clearly.
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do you feel like he actually shows up for you when things are calm, or is it mostly these confusing back and forth moments that keep you hanging on?
he actually shows up. he changed, he tried to make things right, but our background got a lot of problems (from my side my family, from his side his family and work and hes a total workaholic) so i just think things just werent good for ud to be together.
my hope is that he still hasnt changed my nickname which probably means he sees a chance for us again.
think straight was giving myself a real pause. like… no chasing, no trying to decode. just letting time show me if he comes forward on his own. avoidant or not, effort has to be clear.
i dated an avoidant too and the mixed signals nearly broke me. the silence, the “maybe later,” the way they never fully let go. it messes with your head so bad. i’m really sorry you’re sitting in this
well. I can understand his point as I am also in same place. my boyfriend's family didn't liked me at all and they did and said alot of horrible things. so if he is being avoidant and keeping his distance it only means that he have endured it already enough and wants to protect his peace. I let my boyfriend go. I broke up with him. even that he's appearing infront of me everyday and it hurts me so bad and I love him so much. I choose me.