this is day 2 of the breakup and I keep finding myself constantly checking my phone. I can’t seem to put it down. I need something to distract me or someone to talk to and that person is gone now and I don’t know what I can do so I don’t drive myself crazy. I know I need to go through this in order to heal, but I was wondering if anyone had any happy and posititive activites/habits they have found that have helped them not feel so lost, numb, sad, and alone. TIA
Last updated on:2026-01-28T07:23:11+05:30
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I have found focusing on personal growth helpful. I started to read books and Listen to audiobooks. My favorite breakup book is called it's a breakup because it's broken by Greg Bernhardt. I've read it a few times over the years.
I also find moving your body or working out from home or a gym helpful or taking a fitness class. if you don't have the money for a gym membership, there are videos on YouTube. I would recommend yoga by Adriana. You can also find a meditation minis podcast on Spotify. I think the most important thing is to find a healing and fun way to move your body that you enjoy.
When I was going through my first breakup I saw a infomercial on TV for turbo fire by Beachbody. this is back when they sold DVDs and there were no fitness apps yet. the punching and kicking dance videos really helped me to process my breakup and find myself again.
I look forward to hearing more about your your journey and any new hobbies you decide to try.
I can’t thank you enough for this comment. thank you friend❤️
when you say “someone to talk to,” do you mean a friend you trust or just having some company around?
both, but leaning more towards a friend I trust, since I kept so many secrets about my relationship inside my head because I was so hopeful things would get better. but also, someone physically around would help since I’ve been used to that for the last 6 years, yanno? because I’m slowly starting to realize that my relationship was emotionally abusive, I put in so much time and energy just into my partner because I was worried that if I didn’t, we would break up. now I’m working on reestablishing and developing connections with people that I put aside for him
first few days i couldn’t stop scrolling her socials, checking my phone nonstop. i felt completely lost and hollow. it DOES get a little easier day by day
i just take walks, text my friends instead and find hobbies, i started a new private ig account to post my life and i feel better after a week now
its not worth the anxiety honey your worth so much more
You are doing good for day two, no matter what you think of doing DONT MSG YOUR EX!! Looking back at my day two thats something I highly regret doing, tensions were high and I was bound to say something from an emotional place rather than a stable mindset. If your ex blocked you this will be easier to do, so keep at it. Now, for tips on what you can do. You can always hop on apps to meet people. NO REBOUNDS. JUST FRIENDSHIP!! Keep that in mind, but I highly reccomend meeting new friends even if those friendships dont last. It gets your mind off your ex partner. For hobbies, if you have any hobbies you already enjoyed but abandoned try to start those up again. Especially hobbies that didnt include your ex. Talk to people close to you, like family members. This one is a bit risky I guess depending on who you talk too but most people will have good intentions. If you have "nothing" then find something! Theres truly never "nothing" to distract yourself with. Just remember "DONT MSG YOUR EX" unless they themselves explicitly tell you they want you to msg them/talk. Good luck!