They say it takes six months to get over someone and start to feel better. Just like it takes 6 months to break a habit. what happens in those 6 months is up to you.
For me, I want to try and do better at taking care of me. Honor my grief and my loss of 10 years I gave to this man who never fully invested in me. who made me doubt everything I already knew. Who thought he could convince me that it didn't matter who I was with, it would always end the same way and I call bullshit. He wanted me to think the way he ignored me and disappeared for days with no reason and repeat with bo sweat off his brow was the best I could ever hope for. I say in that one reality of his description of me said more of the truth he felt for me then he ever was willing to say.
Will 6 months erase the pain or the memories of him. i doubt it but in 6 months at the very least you can say you were still breathing without him. you were still holding hope ih your heart and he didn't complete you after all. you did that all by yourself
Last updated on:2026-04-01T00:45:49+05:30
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Taking care of me is doing anything that is in my possibilities to take care of me. I have found when my nervous system is replaying the year books with him in my mind and all the invalidating over the years he said I would only receive no matter what man I was with...anger sets in that I let this continue this long when I knew it wasn't a good fit. why does love make all of us so blind to the games love has become to so many.
I blame him for being so cruel and lying to get what he wanted out of me but I am equally if not more to blame because I allowed it. Even after he kept planting each and every red flag a man can fly in front of a women's face, I let his excuses be explanations even tho I knew they were just that, the cousin of lies, excuses.
what does “taking care of you” actually look like right now, like on a random tuesday when it all hits again?
getting in my car and driving to anywhere other then where I started from when the sharp pain and the regret start to consume me. Of course that's if I have the money for gas. I used to ride a bike but now my health has become so bad my doctor tells me not to attempt it yet. Staying with this person for 10 years has cost me the little I had left. The years of doubts and confusion and rejections and loneliness has taken its toll on my entire body. I don't know if I will fully recover but that's not love. He saw and didn't care he was making me sick. He didn't care my heart hurt. He didn't ever give a shit about me and I accepted it! So I have only myself to blame.
I miss the memories of us but now I feel numb about him. I hope these six months will help me get over him
that part where you said he tried to convince you this is the best you’d ever get… i’ve heard that too.
i gave years to someone who kept disappearing too and made me question my own worth. six months didn’t erase it for me, but i finally started feeling like ME again.