i got involved with a man 21 years older than me. i’d had a huge crush on him since i was a teenager probably tied to having an emotionally distant father. he was charming in a messy way always flirting always with someone new and he knew exactly how i felt about him.
he pulled me into this confusing situationship where i was chasing his attention. at first he barely gave me anything then we started meeting hooking up and eventually he acted more serious. but i always knew he was still entertaining other girls. it ended suddenly over something small and i never really got closure.
now he’s still around my life because my sisters go to the same college and he’s with another girl. his wife is actually the principal and from what i hear she believes he’s loyal even though he manipulates things. he seems to just keep living his life like nothing ever happened.
recently i reached out and we ended up texting all night on and off. i started pushing for more attention again calling a lot and he ended up blocking my number. and that’s what’s really messing with me now. i was okay for two years but suddenly my ego feels bruised and i can’t stop thinking about why he’s ignoring me… and part of me still wants him back.
Last updated on:2026-04-08T17:10:05+05:30
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do you feel like you actually miss him, or is it more that being ignored after all that attention is what’s really getting under your skin?
the blocking isn’t about your worth, it’s how he keeps control and distance at the same time.
i got pulled into something similar with an older guy who knew i liked him and kept me hooked just enough. i kept chasing crumbs thinking it meant something, and when he pulled away it messed with my head way more than i expected.
its hard to get out of these cycles. our brain thinks we need them to lift the pain for us...