i was with him for 11 months after being close friends for 4 before that. from the start he was intense over text but said he only wanted friendship even though he knew i had feelings. when i started seeing other people he changed his mind and we got together.
he had a rough past a painful divorce and an ex who said he was avoidant which he denied. we bonded over similar experiences and had strong chemistry but there was always this quiet push and pull. sometimes after great moments together he wouldn’t make plans to see me again and it left me confused.
things seemed to improve. he met my friends my family even my daughter. we traveled together said i love you talked every day. i thought we were building something real and steady.
then out of nowhere just three days after valentine’s day everything changed. we went to the cinema and he felt distant all night. on the drive back he ended things. he was crying said he felt inadequate and couldn’t give me what i needed that i deserved better. there was no real conversation it just ended.
the next day he sent an email saying he had been feeling anxious and not good enough that he might have made a mistake and needed to work on himself. he even asked if i could ever forgive him. just days before he was telling me to let him support me more.
it’s been 6 weeks of no contact. i gave back his things archived our messages stopped looking at photos and cut off social media. i’m doing everything i can to heal but it still hurts so much. i feel blindsided confused and i keep wondering how this isn’t somehow about me. i miss him deeply and still cry a lot.
Last updated on:2026-04-09T20:31:03+05:30
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when you replay that last week before it ended, does it feel like he was already pulling away and you just didn’t want to see it, or did it really feel THAT sudden to you?
Time makes it a lot less acute, the physical pain will stop and you will still think of him a lot, but it will start balancing out soon.
Damn. Mine ended things with me 3 days after Valentine’s Day. Although we’ve only been no contact for 2 weeks. I had to block her because she kept breadcrumbing me, and I found out she slept with someone two weeks after ending things.