has anyone here come out of a long term relationship and actually felt okay again… or even better? did you find the right person after are you happier now?
we were together since i was 19. most of it was good but when it was bad it got really bad. he struggled with addiction for years and there were times he emotionally checked out but he could also be so sweet and show up when i needed him. i never doubted he loved me but in the end he cheated on a work trip.
i don’t want him back but i miss him. i miss the friendship the inside jokes the comfort the trips just having him there.
it’s been 5 months and i am doing better than before but i still have this feeling that i’ll never find someone like him again.
i’m doing everything i’m supposed to working out seeing friends meeting new people even going on dates… but that heavy ache from him being gone just won’t fully go away.
Last updated on:2026-04-10T01:20:06+05:30
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do you feel like you miss him as he was, or more the comfort and history you built together?
i hear you, you’re doing all the right things. for me, it didn’t go away all at once, it just got quieter over time until one day i realized it wasn’t sitting in my chest all day anymore.
Man that constant ache thing is so real. I had similar feeling after my relationship ended couple years back - not nearly as long as yours but still felt like part of me was just missing for the longest time
i was with someone too and even after everything fell apart i still missed the version of us that felt safe. that ache doesn’t just disappear overnight, it lingers in weird quiet moments