i dated a girl from my gym and ignored all the red flags ended up getting attached. long story short she turned out dishonest and disloyal probably the self-sabotaging avoidant type. what bothers me most is that i let her in at all. i’m working on forgiving myself for that but i’m not doubting my instincts again
i’ve done a lot of processing. blocked her everywhere deleted her number no urge to reach out. sometimes i imagine telling her off but that’s about it
i’ve been off dating for about 10 months now. i want to get back out there but this left a bad taste. what annoys me is she’s still at my gym regularly. i avoid even small things like high-fives because i don’t want her thinking we’re cool. maybe it sounds petty but it’s my way of keeping boundaries
honestly the most frustrating part is realizing this is what taught me boundaries. i didn’t have much self-respect before and it took betrayal to wake me up. part of me is grateful for the lesson part of me is still pissed
now i’m just wondering… can i start dating again while i still feel this much anger?
Last updated on:2026-04-17T21:54:03+05:30
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i started dating again while i was still a bit pissed off, but i kept it light and slow. i didn’t force anything serious until that anger wasn’t sitting so loud in me anymore
you feel like the anger is about her, or more about how you let things slide back then?
i dated someone from my own space too and seeing them after everything kept that anger alive way longer than i expected, like i couldn’t fully breathe in a place that used to feel mine