Six weeks from the breakup, two weeks into no contact... only now am I realising that I've been fawning. I felt fine to begin with, obviously sad but kind of numb. As time went by, I kept almost begging? Trying my best to prevent any distance, asking for reassurance... at the time it felt like it was all I could do, but now I realise it just made things harder, and the space of nc has allowed me to heal a little bit.
How can I notice and prevent or regulate that kind of reaction? It wasn't conscious, I just fell into it...
Last updated on:2026-04-21T22:34:45+05:30
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when you look back at those moments, was there a specific trigger that set off that “i need to fix this right now” feeling?
i did the whole over-texting, trying to hold them close thing too, like if i just tried harder it wouldn’t slip away. it hits later and you’re like damn, that wasn’t me
Yess exactly, at the time it was like... I know they feel bad for ending things, I just want to remind them we're friends, no hard feelings, they're lovely, I appreciate them... like realistically they don't want to hear any of that. I wasn't even trying to keep them, I just felt so compelled to say it.
They just wanted space!!! I don't know what I was thinking.