my ex and i originally broke up because of our future plans. i had promised her i’d move wherever she matched for residency but when the time came i told her i needed one more year in nyc. that really shook her trust in the relationship and she said she needed space because she no longer felt emotionally secure with me or with us.
during that break i went on a vacation. i told her it was a solo trip but i actually brought along a female friend. we were in no contact after that and when i finally reached out recently to try talking again she told me she had already found out the truth from someone else.
that completely destroyed whatever trust she still had left in me. she said the worst part wasn’t even the trip itself it was that i had multiple chances to tell her the truth and kept choosing not to. she stopped sharing her location with me told me this is officially over and said the love and trust just don’t feel the same anymore.
i honestly know i messed this up badly. i lied to her twice and broke her heart in the process. i begged her to forgive me and she said she does forgive me and still loves me but she doesn’t see a future with me right now.
now i’m stuck sitting with the consequences of my own decisions. i know giving her space is the only thing i can do at this point but losing someone this important because of my own dishonesty hurts more than i can explain. part of me keeps wondering if after enough time and real change there’s even a chance something this broken can ever be repaired again.
Last updated on:2026-05-29T19:10:20+05:30
Comments (5)
Hey.
I don't actually blame you on the whole moving thing. If life gets in the way, the relationship needs to adapt -- not just shatter under the stress.
...That being said, you really messed up bringing that female friend. Sorry, no sugar-coating that one. With her trust broken... I think it's for sure time to move on. Just think about in the future about your take on honesty, yeah?
I don’t think getting this relationship back should be your focus. If I were you, I’d take a deep look into why I felt the need to lie to her. I guarantee that decision had everything to do with you and nothing to do with her.
she said trust is gone and love isn't the same, that's not a door that's a wa
Mine just date someone new after 1 week I can do only laugh in silence..I think just move on i know it's hard i did beg like you did i beg and beg but it was nothing.. sorry to hear for you wish could give you a hug
No contact, think on YOUR mistakes, not hers if there were any. Work on yourself, pick yourself up and grow. Be a tree, sprout leaves, do anything to better yourself even if it means never going back to her.