he was the only one who ever treated me right and three days ago he ended things. he even came to see me while i was crying sat with me for hours took me out to dinner and stayed until i calmed down even though i could barely eat.
i could tell life was getting heavy for him losing his dad struggling in school money issues and the fear of being sent back to a country at war. he said it’s all too much and he can’t handle a relationship even though he still cares about me and says in another life it could’ve worked.
we talked for hours i didn’t want to let go but he kept saying it’s over because he can’t be the partner i deserve right now. i’ve been there for him through everything and i still would be no matter how hard things got.
we got emotional one thing led to another and afterward he opened up more than he ever had holding my hand but still saying he can’t be with me. later he called to check if i took my meds and if i fell asleep okay.
i know this is out of my control but i keep wishing he would just choose me anyway. i keep wondering if i wasn’t enough for him to stay even though he says it’s not about me.
now he’s asking for space barely replying and i’ve stopped reaching out. i’m scared that me stepping back means nothing to him while i miss him more than anything.
i’ve been hurt before but somehow this hurts even more. i feel selfish for wanting him to stay but i don’t want anyone else. i just want to be enough for someone to choose me.
Last updated on:2026-05-07T16:25:43+05:30
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I wouldn’t say selfish, but please do not challenge your worth. my ex told me I could make him happy, I bring him peace, calms his anxiety, he feels safe with me - but he chose to let me go. he said nothing can make him happy right now and he needs to work on himself. it’s hard not to challenge your worth when someone says all the right things then still walks away. let him work on what he needs, and believe him. it’s hard, I know. but use this time to love yourself. ❤️🩹
i don’t think you weren’t enough. honestly, i think he’s drowning and trying to cut away anything he feels responsible for
do you think part of what’s hurting so much is that he still acts caring, so your heart keeps getting pulled back into hope every time?
this hurt to read because i’ve loved someone through chaos too, and i kept thinking “if i just love them harder maybe they’ll stay.” the way he still checked if you took your meds and fell asleep okay… gah, those soft little things are what make it SO hard to let g