got my heart broken this morning. i’ve known this girl for a few years now. when we first met we had this amazing connection for a couple of months but because of my work and constant travel neither of us felt ready to make it serious when i’d be gone for almost a year.
even while dating other people after that nobody ever matched me the way she did.
we eventually reconnected when i happened to visit her city. we grabbed dinner then spent the rest of the week together before i left. later i came back around thanksgiving and spent another week with her. honestly those were some of the most intense and genuine romantic moments i’ve ever had. she’d tell me how good we were together how unlucky it was that timing always got in the way. we even talked about what it would take to finally try for something real. my work situation had become more stable and i basically told her that if she wanted us seriously i’d show up properly for her.
we agreed that when i finally had time off we’d give this a real shot.
a month ago i started planning my summer and asked if she wanted to be part of it. she said yes so i built those plans around seeing her again.
today i reached out to lock things in and she told me she’d completely forgotten about our plans and that she’s now in a relationship. that line about it being “disappointing only to me” absolutely crushed me.
i know she’s allowed to move on. i know technically nobody owed anybody anything. but damn i feel stupid for holding onto this for so long for keeping myself emotionally unavailable because i really believed we’d find our way back to each other.
now i’m stuck at work for the next two months trying not to drown in my own head. i can’t eat i don’t want to talk to anyone and waking up tomorrow already feels exhausting.
guess i just keep going and learn from it.
Last updated on:2026-05-07T18:07:03+05:30
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i had one person like that too, the one i kept comparing everyone else. the worst part is thinking the timing finally lined up and then finding out they already moved on while you were still holding onto the idea of them
that “disappointing only to me” line was brutal. do you think she really forgot the plans, or was she trying to make the conversation feel lighter because she knew it would hurt you?
You sound lovely. I’m sorry this happened to you, I’m sure it’s hard right now :( actually, I know it is. There’s something about such limited time feeling SO special and romantic and that space in between being friends and lovers….it can certainly be intoxicating and you’ll be thinking about it for awhile. But at least now you know you can move on properly honey, despite it feeling hard to - sending you a hug