last year i got out of a relationship that completely broke me. by january i met someone new and for the first time in months i felt genuinely happy again. she made life feel lighter and i gave that relationship everything i had because i truly believed she loved me too. but today she told me she’s still not sure she’s over her ex and wants to go on a break while she figures out what she wants. honestly it crushed me. somehow this hurts even more than my last breakup and i feel like i’ve fallen right back into that dark place again.
Last updated on:2026-05-07T21:14:08+05:30
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I have been on both ends. I have come to realize that I’ll never be over my recent ex, so I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship until and unless I knew for sure I would not take him back even if he comes back and I’m ready to pour my love into myself and the new relationship. If someone says they’re not over their ex, leave gracefully. They will never see you as the one, just a placeholder. My ex did that to me.
stopping myself from treating the “break” like a promise he will come back. i kept clinging to hope and it dragged the pain out way longer than it needed to.
did she say she wants space because she genuinely wants to figure herself out, or did it feel more like she already knew what she wanted but couldn’t fully say it yet?
I was living day by day one day at a time trying to just survive i was in a relationship that pretty much was already dead. I met a girl and she brought be back to life and I was scared to lose her but the other girl I was with was taking care of the house and my family. I was with both of them together for a year and a half. they knew about each other as well because I didnt lie nor hide it. when I finally made my decision and broke up with the one I was with longer the other told me I took too long and it is what I get. honestly i am digging myself out of what I let myself fall into i fucked up I know and I learned from it. I think she is and will be the one I let slip away.
after my worst breakup i met someone who made me feel alive again, then finding out they still had one foot emotionally stuck with their ex completely wrecked me. that second heartbreak hit harder because i finally let myself trust again