my fiancée broke up with me yesterday and honestly i feel shattered. we were together for 8 months and i gave everything i had to this relationship. one of the biggest issues was her drinking. whenever she’d go through bottles of wine it almost always ended in huge fights. i’d tell her i loved her and just wanted the fighting to stop but she always said i blamed the alcohol for everything. the truth is we barely fought when she wasn’t drinking.
what hurts the most is thinking about all the memories we made together. sleeping beside each other every night laughing until we couldn’t breathe crying together being there for each other during the hardest moments. we were supposed to get married in july and now suddenly it’s all gone. i can’t understand how she seems able to move on so easily while i’m sitting here completely broken.
and yeah i’m a guy but this pain is real. i can’t stop crying. i’m not posting this for attention i just genuinely feel torn apart right now and could really use some kindness.
Last updated on:2026-05-12T15:19:11+05:30
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did she ever admit the drinking was affecting the relationship or was it always turned back on you? because constantly fighting around alcohol can wear someone down SO much without them even realizing it
I know your hurting and feeling this pain, but I honestly feel you dodged a bullet. Even though you saw a future with her, her issues would never be solved over time. She needs to figure out why she is drinking. What is she trying to numb? Theres always something.
crying after my ex left because i kept thinking about all the tiny normal things we’d never do again, sleeping beside each other, stupid jokes, grocery runs. people act like men are supposed to shut it off but heartbreak doesn’t care about gender
first off, you are completely valid in feeling this way dude. im not saying this because its what i think you want to hear, but because i genuinly feel this way. Im not gonna say that I know what its like, but my ex had a very similar issue. complete angel when she was sober, hell on earth when she was drunk. I also understand missing all of the "couple" things that you used to do. me and my ex dated for 1 year and 8 months and now its been over a month since I broke up with her, and I still wake up everyday and instinctively go to open her messages. your gonna feel sad bro. it doesnt make you any less of a man. if anything, I thing it makes you more of a man, because you can admit that you are NOT ok.
take some time to:
-hang out with the boys
-work out
-start a project
do NOT:
-Isolate
-smoke/drink to cope
-just sit and think
feel free to reach out if you need an ear to listen