Hello, i’m new to this app so not too sure how it all works but i was in a relationship for 8 months and a lot of it involved coercive behaviour towards me, a disregard for my emotional well being and manipulative sexual tendencies. I am still so attached to this man and think of him often and deeply, and reread old messages and i need it to stop, hes blocked me everywhere but the account we used to message on and i’ve gotten to the point of pleading to him to block it so i cant reread the messages but to no avail. i would really appreciate some guidance on what to do going forward and how others have dealt with a situation similar 🤍
Last updated on:2026-05-14T01:49:57+05:30
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my ex was manipulative too and i used to reread our old chats like i was trying to find proof that the good parts were real. meanwhile those same messages were keeping me emotionally trapped every single day
i relate to this so much, and i kept trying to break the cycle because i’m aware that it’s not helping me but i think it’s time to stop entertaining this for good or atleast try to. thank you ❤️
block him first. Trust me, I get it. I understand it doesn’t feel great. but if you block him and delete the account itself, or the app, you will feel better.
I think you’re right in deleting the app as everytime i block him i immediately feel to unblock him, thank you ❤️
when you reread the messages, do you feel comfort for a moment or does it mostly reopen the hurt all over again? and honestly, i really hope you’re talking to someone safe outside this app too, especially after coercive and manipulative stuff like that
it depends what i read, because a lot of it is us arguing but there’s also times when things were really good and i just miss how we were then, but i find most of the time if i do feel comfort it quickly fades because i know we’re not going to be in contact again. and i’ve been skeptical about speaking with someone outside of this situation but i do think the support would be beneficial so i will look for some. thank you for your advice ❤️
Can't you not just delete your account? We cannot force other people to do something they don't wanna do sadly.
that is true and i have a lot of connections on the account i don’t want to lose, but i’m opting to delete the app for some time to hopefully create some distance. thank you ❤️