i’m struggling so badly with the fact that the guy i truly believed was my soulmate never actually chose me. we were stuck in this messy situationship where feelings were clearly there but he was unhappy with his life and everything between us became unhealthy. he took me for granted disrespected me at times and i reacted badly too. we brought out the worst in each other.
about a year and a half ago he walked away because he knew i wanted something real with him but then he met another girl and decided she was the one he wanted to commit to instead. now they’ve been together for months and i can’t even lie to myself anymore by calling it a rebound. it’s real. he’s giving her the consistency effort and commitment i begged for.
that realization has destroyed my self worth more than i want to admit. i keep asking myself why he could become the right person for someone else but never for me. i think what hurts the most is grieving the future i saw so clearly with him watching him build it with somebody else instead.
Last updated on:2026-05-14T21:12:11+05:30
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How do you know he's actually committed and not just stringing her along as well?
When you were never chosen and you see another girl getting the bare minimum you begged for, it makes you think what does she have that I don’t. Honestly, do an ego death and just accept they aren’t your person and your ego is hurting now, but you will eventually move on to better.
I've been in a similar position and it almost killed me. I'm sorry you're hurting, it's so painful when your person doesn't want you back
Take deep breath, accept what happened, don’t out yourself down, put your head down, work on yourself, Career, gym, good food, sleep. One year down the line you will be unrecognisable, but remember don’t do it for revenge or don’t do it for him , do it for yourself.
i’m sorry. i’m going through the same exact thing. he told me he didn’t want a relationship that it wasn’t me he just wanted to be single because he liked the freedom. he never wanted to meet me but wouldn’t leave me alone. we stopped talking a couple times but he always came back. this time i know he’s not coming back because he’s actually seeing someone