last night i dreamed about my ex-fiancée for the first time in a while and it’s been sitting heavy on my chest ever since.
we were together for 2 years engaged for 1. the wedding was fully planned guests invited everything ready. then 3 days before the wedding she ended it and walked away. it’s been 8 months now with complete no contact. she never came back to explain or try to fix anything.
the dream felt weirdly calm and intimate. we were laying side by side watching tv my hand resting on her waist like nothing had ever happened. i remember telling her i wanted to grow old with you.
after that she started explaining herself almost defending why she left but i couldn’t make out what she was saying because i looked away while she talked.
i woke up feeling heavy and sad all over again.
i still think about her every day. i still don’t fully understand why she left especially because it all happened right after i lost my job during a tech layoff and was already drowning in wedding stress. before ending things she ghosted me for 12 days and i honestly felt abandoned and confused the entire time.
Last updated on:2026-05-15T19:00:48+05:30
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I’m so sorry OP. That must be hard. ❤️🩹
As a Neuroscientist here’s my take on dreaming of ex-
Your brain tries to make sense of what happened, especially in blindsided breakups. It is on constant overdrive trying to think of scenarios trying to explain the Why. When you’re asleep, the sleep cycle starts and REM cycle is where you begin dreaming. Since your recent memories and experiences are on the surface, easily accessible from the memory areas of the brain, you get dreams of what you want to happen.
Hope this helps. Please take care of yourself. Ghosters/dumpers seldom come back or give you closure. You need to give yourself the closure but all in good time. You got this ❤️🩹
I hate when those dreams happen. My boyfriend broke up with me and I’ve gotten them every night. Personally, I’m religious so I try to think maybe it’s God sending me signs through dreams, but I know not everyone takes it that way. Sometimes it’s nice to see the version we loved of them in our dreams, even if it isn’t what’s happening in real life. I’m so sorry.
keep your head up, keep moving forward, and know you're not alone friend ❤️