i was with him for 2 years… yes!! i’m really young and half way through our first year i got pregnant, miscarriaged. then recently found stuff on his phone, but previously i kept begging him to change and that i was tired of not receiving flowers/dates/gifts. he thought love was just sitting infront of a tv and spending time but it goes beyond that… he was also hiding porn behind my back. i didn’t know he was doing it still, it’s not a problem but why lie? broke up with him kicked him out my place and begged him back when i found out i was pregnant again and he said he’ll come back 2-3 years from now but i had my closure but deep down, i don’t hate him but pushing me away for your selfishness has pushed me away permanently. it’s hard to process the ending because he used to always beg me to say now… his business is starting life’s going good, he doesn’t need me/care about me anymore. it’s day 1 since no contact, pray for me. i go to the UK in a few months, he said he’ll see me off but i don’t want to ever see him again. i’m letting him go this time.. i got all the closure i needed… the miscarriage happened again and the only people there for me was my family. i am 22 by the way :) are there good men, women? will i ever find love? i’m staying celibate after this and not looking for love just focusing on my career… men have been extremely disappointing for me. either they’re abusive or just avoidant. i’m too tired of this.
Last updated on:2026-05-17T23:25:12+05:30
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when you picture your future now, outside of him completely, does the move to the UK feel exciting at all yet or does everything still just feel heavy right now?
honestly, i stopped asking “are there good men?” after my breakup and just focused on getting myself back. that exhaustion you’re feeling is real. i think staying single for a while after this sounds healthy, especially after carrying so much emotional weight basically alone.
you r 22.you have a lot of life ahead of you.N one day u will thank god that this has passed .Focus on urself , make urself financial independant first ,and yes there are a lot of good people to take care of you but first u need to acknowledge your importance ..u need to love urself first.
you will find love. the scary part is that you will find it when you STOP actively searching for “your” person, and start pouring all of that back into yourself. you attract the love you give yourself, that energy is what teaches people how to love and appreciate you. you got this!!!
don't worry just be happy