I’m still very hopeful for reconnecting in the future. There is no bad blood, he pulled away because of long distance for college and I think a fear of emotional vulnerability (his first relationship). I know that I need to slowly let go of the idea he will come back. But is it true that giving space, and letting time pass is truly the most likely for him to reach out if he is going to? Like texting him isn’t helping me move on OR him come back? So I shouldn’t?
I want this feeling to go away. But everything I find myself doing like going to the gym, tanning, practicing my sport, I find all my motivation is coming from “this will make him regret losing me”. I need help I don’t think this is healthy but there are so many unresolved feelings and no anger because he really is a good man.
Last updated on:2026-05-18T01:01:32+05:30
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my ex wasn’t cruel either, he just shut down emotionally and disappeared into “i need space.” i spent months trying to become hotter, happier, more accomplished so he’d regret leaving me. it exhausted me because every “self improvement” thing still revolved around HIM.
do you think part of you is holding onto hope because there was never a real ending conversation? sometimes unresolved breakups leave your brain searching for a conclusion that never came.
yeah i mean all he said was “i care about you, i just don’t feel like i can be with you at this point in my life” which feels very ambiguous to me.
find motivation from"this will make him regret losing me" to "this will make me better from yesterday".Dont give him that much importance.
Stop trying to seek validation. You doing things thinking it will make him regret losing you is seeking validation. Take a breath day by day allow yourself to feel lonely, to feel sad. It will only work that way, you'll be sad till one day you won't, you'll want to live a little. Don't text him, don't check his socials. You can only find yourself when you are alone. Allow yourself to feel everything. There's no procedure but you'll get over it.