I’m struggling to remain no contact with my ex. We were together for 5 years and lived together for 4 of those years. I broke up with him in December. He moved out but I’ve been having a hard time not hanging out with him because he’s a comfort and familiarity for me. I don’t regret breaking up with and I actually feel better when he isnt around so I don’t know why I just can’t let go. I finally managed to go no contact for a month and then today I broke it 🙃
Any tips?
Last updated on:2026-05-18T10:16:36+05:30
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you picture getting back together, do you actually miss the relationship itself or do you mostly miss the comfort of having your person there all the time?
I don’t picture getting back together at all. I know that I made the right choice in breaking up with him (unresolveable problems dealing with the living situation & just growing in separate ways). But I do still care for him deeply & he truly is one of my greatest friends. I’m so comfortable around him & he’s familiar so it’s not that I want to get back together. I have a hard time letting go :/
i kept reaching back out to my ex even after knowing deep down the relationship was done because he still felt like home to me. 5 years together wires someone into your daily life HARD, your brain doesn’t just switch that off overnight
This helps so much. I kind of feel some & like no one understands & just expects me to be over it already so thank you for that validation 🫶🏽
It’s normal and okay to break no contact. You were together for 5 years and lived together, your brain is wired to be with this person- it’s habit. Of course you miss that person you spent every day with. It is going to take a long time and efforts to unlearn being with the person. Go easy on yourself. Know it’s okay to break NC. Just keep being NC as much as you can. 🫶🏼
🥺🥺 I appreciate this SO much. Every time I break no contact I feel so angry with myself like I should be over this & doing better by now but I’m not :(