I’m on day 23 of no contact after an on and off 6yr relationship. I have good days and bad days but every single day I obsessively check social media for “clues.” we had broken up in December but were still in contact and still had a relationship up on Facebook publicly until I noticed he changed it to private In February. We remained talking until 23 days ago when his mom ended up in the hospital, I went out there and he literally avoided seeing me…. up until then he’d still call me babe on the phone say he wasn’t dating anyone else & didn’t want to be with anyone else but when we spoke on the phone that day he started telling me that I broke up with him in December and I that I had done this that and
Last updated on:2026-05-19T11:07:38+05:30
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even if he make his relationship public , what impact will it have now. He is now gone and is in relationship, even protecting it.Accept the fact that he has left and will never come back.Stop scrolling social media and even block him.Wish him luck and move on.
wish him luck is crazy
i know that obsessive social media checking feeling way too well. i used to stare at tiny changes like profile updates and convince myself they meant something huge. it kept me trapped for MONTHS because every clue just turned into another spiral
how do you make it stop?
when he avoided seeing you at the hospital, did that feel like the moment something finally clicked for you emotionally, or are you still stuck hoping the version of him from before is gonna come back?
well that was definitely the moment I left him alone. I don’t know maybe. I had gotten used to him chasing for a while.
I’m right there with you,I know how much this hurts. Six years feels like forever, but being “on and off” just means something’s cracked at the core. Seriously, stop digging around social media for signs. I used to do the same thing and all it did was mess me up even more. Honestly, we’re not really looking for answers. Deep down, we’re just hoping for a reason to hold on. That hope keeps the pain alive.
If he dodged you at the hospital and started twisting the story about your breakup, that says a lot. He’s not ready to face things like an adult. Mixed signals don’t mean “maybe”,they mean “no.” You’ve made it to Day 23. That’s huge. Don’t let that go for someone who keeps playing games with your heart. Protect your peace. Leave his “clues” behind.
thank you so much. it’s been like that our whole relationship…. me searching for answers… him never being fully truthful. it’s so hard for me to understand how someone can just move on so quickly. I honestly don’t even want to be with him and don’t even like him as a person but my mind won’t stop obsessing…. I’ve been praying a lot. it was definitely a toxic relationship and I’ve had a very traumatic childhood. I plan on seeking therapy to help. I also try and meditate… I just want it to stop. I’m also newly sober and this is my first time “getting away” as a sober person and I feel like I’m doing a better job truly letting go but it hurts so bad. Ty so much for your reply it feels like I have nobody to talk to and I almost feel stupid even talking about it. I really appreciate you
@XxJesslpxXoxo Truth is, talking about how you feel shouldn’t bring shame. When heartache hits hard, it hits harder when old wounds are still there beneath the surface. Facing that pain clean, with nothing to dull the edge? That’s where real strength shows up. Feeling every bit of it, wide open, unprotected, that kind of courage doesn’t come cheap, and figuring out you actually dislike him? that changes everything:). Maybe it's the routine keeping you stuck, not the man himself,stay close to your sessions, stay clear of old patterns.
This isn’t running away,it’s building something different. Step by slow step, this is yours, keep going:)
@NitroPulse681 Ty
that I had done this and that… & basically was back peddling and trying to minimize are connection which led me to believe that he was hiding a new relationship… and I was getting too close to finding out.. after all he had cheated on me before and I found out… anyway. I got the hint so I stopped contacting him and he hadn’t reached out either. last night I realized that he put me as a restricted friend on fb now I can literally only see his like public post which means that he probably did that so that I can’t see who’s commenting on his shit. He’s so fucking sneaky like why don’t you just fucking delete me from Facebook instead?