we’ve been broken up for about two weeks now and honestly i know i played a huge part in why things fell apart. we were only together a few months from november to april but everything moved really fast emotionally while both of us were already dealing with stress and major life changes.
when things started going downhill i handled a lot of it badly. i let stress and emotions completely take over. i became obsessed with work money planning for the future and trying to control everything instead of actually being emotionally present or taking care of my mental health. i also spiraled online after the breakup and embarrassed both myself and her which i regret deeply.
what makes this harder is that we have a baby on the way and i still genuinely love her. i don’t just miss being in a relationship i miss my best friend and the future we talked about building together.
these past couple weeks i’ve been trying to focus on improving myself instead of sitting in guilt all day. mentally emotionally physically financially all of it. i’m looking into therapy too because i know i need to learn how to handle stress and emotions in a healthier way.
i’m not trying to pressure her into getting back together but i’d really like advice from people who’ve actually rebuilt trust after a breakup especially when there’s a child involved. can people really change and reconnect later on? and if they can what actually helped?
Last updated on:2026-05-19T17:14:11+05:30
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mad respect for owning up to your part in all this. it's good that you're focusing on self-improvement; therapy can really help with that. rebuilding trust takes time, so just be patient, keep working on yourself, and if it's meant to be, things could reconnect down the line. keep it real and don't pressure her, just show that you're trying to be better for yourself and the kid.
I’m sorry
it's good you're reflecting on this and trying to improve yourself. focusing on therapy is a solid move, just make sure you take it one step at a time. rebuilding trust takes time and showing consistent change, so just be patient and open with her about your growth. good luck, you're on the right path.
I'm really sorry that it happened to you, i know people that got back together, but it takes a lot of self improvement and getting to know roots of your problems.
As it looks like, i'd say that you are on the good track and that you are doing as much as you can, but it's not only up to you to decide. On the brighter side, couples that are waiting for a baby or having a small child tend to come back together much more than couples that don't. Stay strong