it’s been about 3 months since i ended things with someone who kept going back and forth on whether he actually wanted a relationship with me. after months of confusion i finally confronted him and he admitted that for a while he’d been missing the romantic feelings and saw me more as his best friend than a partner. he said letting me go hurt him too but he understood why i walked away.
since then i’ve done everything “right.” no contact unfollowed him focused on moving forward and honestly i have healed a lot. the pain isn’t as sharp anymore. but lately i’ve realized i genuinely miss his presence in my life. not even just romantically i miss the comfort the support the feeling of safety we had together. if i’m being honest though there’s probably still some attraction there too.
recently something personal happened that’s been emotionally triggering and my first instinct was wanting to reach out to him because he used to feel like my safe place. now i’m stuck wondering if reconnecting as just people is even realistic or if i’m romanticizing things because i’m emotional right now.
has anyone here ever reached back out after being the one who ended it? did you regret it or was it actually possible to reconnect in a healthy way?
Last updated on:2026-05-20T01:22:05+05:30
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Yes u can make a call. But before that,ask urself ,whether he is the same person who u know or whether he will comfort you as he used to.You are already hurt, and healing.Anything wrong will leave u more hurt.Trust me i have been in this situations and i have learnt my lessons in hard ways
i was the one who walked away too after months of someone constantly changing their mind about me. even when you know you made the right choice, you still miss the person who felt like home to you
i don’t think you’re crazy for wanting to reach out, especially after something emotionally triggering happened.
do you think you truly want friendship with him, or do you think part of you is hoping reconnecting might slowly turn romantic again? because i had to be brutally honest with myself about that before i reached back out.