my ex and i were together for 8 months and we recently broke up over text since we’re currently long distance. honestly the breakup happened because he could see i was slowly losing myself trying to accommodate him. we talked less saw each other less and i kept compromising because his emotional needs were very different from mine.
i knew deep down that whenever my feelings and effort weren’t being fully reciprocated i’d end up frustrated and hurt. but at the same time i understood where he was coming from and part of me really believed this was just a rough patch we could work through together.
we genuinely tried to meet in the middle but because of everything going on in his life right now he’s mentally not in a good place. he told me he doesn’t have the emotional capacity for a relationship and that it wouldn’t be fair for me to wait around while he figures himself out and heals. he thinks i deserve better.
what makes this so hard is that he really was my best friend. our personalities fit together so naturally and i’ve never felt more comfortable being completely myself around someone. he’s kind understanding and sweet which honestly makes this breakup hurt even more because there’s no anger to hold onto.
we’re currently doing no contact which i initiated because i know hearing from him constantly would destroy me emotionally. i think i just needed to vent because more than anything i really miss my best friend.
Last updated on:2026-05-21T17:29:11+05:30
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i’ve been in the “right person, wrong timing” kind of breakup too. my ex was kind to me as well, which somehow made no contact even HARDER because there wasn’t anger there to help me let go
you did the right thing initiating no contact
what you miss most is him specifically, or the version of the relationship you both hoped you’d eventually get back to once life settled down?