it’s been one day since I’ve gone no contact with my ex and to be honest it’s been really really hard. Weirdly, it feels like I’ve given up on him even though he was the one to break up with me. He wanted to stop our on and off situation (seeing eachother and still speaking etc) after the break up because he saw how much it was upsetting and hurting me, and deep down I wanted him to see how much it was hurting me. I wanted him to know how much it was hurting me knowing that he didn’t want to commit back into a relationship with me. But on surface level, I enjoyed seeing him still and spending the days with him because it felt so familiar and normal even if he wasn’t my boyfriend anymore. I still have hope and I feel really stupid because of that. I don’t tell and haven’t told any of my friends about the situation because no1, it then feels real but no2, it feels like I can never go back on my decision once people know the full story because then I look weak. I wish I didn’t feel this way and that it was so much easier but I don’t know how I’m going to cope.
Last updated on:2026-06-01T21:48:57+05:30
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i really felt the part about not telling your friends because it makes it feel real. do you think you're more afraid of losing him, or of finally letting yourself believe that this chapter might actually be over
Did that for months it's exhausting. He didn't choose you and I know it hurts cuz I feel the same. Every moment of happines I paid with million tears. being lonley doesn't hurt that much like being hurt over and over again almost everyday. 😉
when did you start to feel like being alone was better and outweighed being in the loop with your ex? he keeps telling me he will find be again soon after he figures out his family issues but like you said, waiting is exhausting.
@DreamVib685 with time everything changed. I felt distance in behaviour. slow msg response. barely taking a phone to call me. every time i brought that up as a problem I was told that everything is in my head and everything was alright. In the end I was told that I am being too much to handle. Just because I didn't want to continue that misery of being around and playing a role that satisfies someone but ripping my guts apart. You should support your boy in his hardship, just dont lose yourself on the way. Ask yourself if he is honest with you.
accepting that missing them and hoping are not the same thing. i still had hope for a while, but i stopped letting that hope decide my actions because it kept pulling me back into the same pain.
i stayed in that in-between stage with my ex for months because seeing her felt better than missing her, even when every goodbye broke my heart all over again. day one of no contact felt like i was the one leaving, even though they were the one who chose not to stay.