if anyone read my previous posts, we had a scheduled check in yesterday. it went really well, we talked about how we have been feeling and how we are trying to change. we joked like we used to and it felt comforting. We agreed to a few more days of space but afterwords around mindight she messaged me again telling me how she missed me and wish she could tell me so many things. I tried to just sleep and look at the texts tomorrow but I couldn’t help myself. we talked about her confusion, how she misses me but still feels anger and sadness and so many conflicting emotions when she thinks about what I did and how it hurt her. She was apologizing we broke up and told me she has been having dreams and fantasies of us still together. She talked about how she wanted to date me again, and how she questions if us breaking up was the right choice. I reinstated the space, I am afraid that we might break up again if we haven’t had time to fully grow and heal. she seemed sad and I hate that but idk what else I was supposed to do. it hasn’t even been a week since we broke up and it still feels so raw right now. I need opinions please
Last updated on:2026-06-01T21:04:23+05:30
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this hit me because it sounds like neither of you actually wants to be apart, you're both just scared of ending up right back where you were. when she talks about dating again, is she also talking about what would need to be different this time, or mostly about how much she misses you?
she talks about how much she misses me but knows it’s nots right now. she knows logically we need to heal but we both still love eachother so deeply. we just know we can’t do that together and are so afraid of the other moving on in the mean time.
i'm glad you didn't rush back into it just because it felt good in the moment. when everything is still this raw, i've found that missing someone can be louder than the actual problems that broke you apart.
ess than a week after our breakup saying all the same things, that he missed me, that he was't sure he made the right choice, and the feelings were REAL but the wounds were still fresh. honestly, i think telling her you both needed more space was probably the hardest and kindest thing you could've done
well, I think you guys are used to each other at this point because you have been friends. if you hurt her once then she might forgive you now and forget about whatever happened but deep down she will remember it for ever and maybe when it's time to introduce you to her parents or friends she gonna feel ashamed that she picked you. Idk what you did to her exactly but don't change yourself for anything just find someone that will accept you the way you are. you guys are confused and the feeling of getting back feels like an achievement but it really isn't so please just move on with your life and once you love someone you can't go back and be friends again so close that part and heal I know it's hard but getting back to each other it's just like putting a bandaid on.